eve - a phoenix from the ashes

“mother of all living things”

“giver of life”

“helper, [fit for him]”

As a young wife (4 years married and counting), I’ve felt the pull to dig deeper into my calling in this area. I have felt, so strongly, a desire to aggressively chase the heart of the Father - the heart He has for a Godly wife to know her FULL and TRUE identity in this role. I believe God is calling women up to grow into the identity of His original purpose for Eve - created as Adam’s partner… as a wife… a helper… a friend.

The question that has revolved in my mind is this; who are we, as Godly wives, meant to be? What does the Godly wife look like in His eyes? Which truths and standards are we, as unique creations, called to that this world has written off? Are there areas we didn’t receive guidance in through our upbringing? Which areas, as individuals, do we know we need to lay at His feet so we can be transformed?

If we can grasp the definition of Eve through God’s eyes — His original intention — then we can (and will) begin to capture the power of marriage and relationship that He designed. From this, the generations to follow us will reap what we sow. The favor, the blessing, the 𝘍𝘙𝘌𝘌𝘋𝘖𝘔. The way we choose to walk out our relationships now, is creating the future atmosphere for our children, and their children, and their children… will we choose to sow in a way that our children will be set apart, and be birthed into a generation of freedom, power, and unconditional love?

Over two years ago, God showed me an image depicting what He is wanting to do; He is calling back the name of Eve — rising the Phoenix from the ashes of sin and destruction.

Will we catch on to this move? Will we listen to the call He places on each of our hearts? Will we dig deep, and surrender all we are to this?

Will we be obedient to His original design of the Godly wife?

“Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper FIT for him.”

‭‭Genesis‬ ‭2:18‬ ‭ESV

Eve listened to her flesh, and destruction followed. When we listen to our flesh in our marriage, it creates a playground for the enemy — a playground for frustration, division, fear, and pride to become active in our relationship. This may seem to go dormant at times, leading us to think we don’t struggle in those areas, but when our flesh directs our relationships, conflict simply brings those pieces of destruction to the surface. When we allow our flesh to react in these ways, it can damage our relationship with our husbands more than we know. Even the smallest hurtful word, cold shoulder, or choice to not love unconditionally is going AGAINST your goal of a united, intimate, and trusted relationship.

We must choose to respond by our spirit - the lifeblood of who we are created to be. The spirit that God knit us together - on purpose - to house.

“For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace.”

‭‭Romans‬ ‭8:6‬ ‭ESV

Romans 8 is an incredible chapter explaining our identity because of the sacrifice Jesus gave on the cross. It empowers us to live as His heir - in all power and likeness.

I pray for whoever is reading this, that you are empowered today by His spirit to live in peace, with a slowness to react with everyone you see today. A slowness that gives you a chance to choose your spirit over your flesh. A chance to choose unconditional love, in every situation.